Married But Single

That's how many married couples live their lives, and it's sad and completely opposite to God's intended plan for marriage. Living in the same house, raising kids, going to work, and paying bills is not what marriage is about; it's simply going through the motions.

You can be married and still lead separate lives. I was married for seven years to my first husband, and we lived completely separate lives, which ultimately led to the end of our marriage. We worked opposite shifts and weekends, had a joint bank account to pay bills, and even shared the same last name and address, but there was nothing unifying us. Looking back, I realize the reasons our marriage didn’t work; the biggest one being that we had no foundation—no cornerstone to build upon. We didn't have Jesus at the center of our relationship.

We argued about various things, but mostly we avoided all the important issues. I often wished he would change in many ways, as we tend to do when we feel unhappy. We believe our challenges stem from the other person, but the reality is that we both had serious unresolved issues that manifested in our behaviors.

Marriage is beautiful, and together you can become a powerhouse for success. However, that potential can never be realized if you walk around harboring bitterness and believing it's everyone else's fault for who you are.

It's essential to dig deep within yourself, identify the areas that need healing, and do the necessary work. You have no idea how wonderful life can be until you see it through a healthy lens.

Matthew 6:22

The eye is the lamp of the body. So if your eye is healthy, your whole body will be full of light